Week 5 - Refuse to Live Angry
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Proverbs 15:18 - "A hot tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel."
Proverbs 29:11 - "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end."
Ecclesiastes 7:9 - "Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools."
James 1:19-20 - "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, because human anger do not produce the righteousness that God desires."
Ephesians 4:26 - "In your anger, do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry..."
Matthew 5:22 - "But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgement; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, 'You fool!" will be liable to the hell of fire."
Matthew 21:12 - "And Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seas of those who sold pigeons. He said to them, "It is written, 'My house shall be called a house of prayer', but you make it a den of robbers."
Our anger about what has been done to us and what we've experienced assumes that God will not be honored and that our suffering cannot be redeemed because we have to take the problem into our OWN hands (hint: where anger comes in). Anger comes in all different shapes and forms through different avenues, but the outcome always seems to be the same.
BUT when we allow the work of God in our life to take over and recognize our own short-comings, our anger subsides.
So when was the last time you were angry?
If you don't deal with anger, anger will deal with you.
Here are the main reasons why people feel angry:
1. They're feeling hurt
2. They feel that life is out of control
3. They feel dishonored and disrespected
4. People recognize injustice
IF you want to be angry then these things apply to you...
- Know that you are always right and that others are wrong
- Be a perfectionist, and demand that people meet your standards.
- Expect everyone to cater to your needs and desires
- Never laugh at yourself, and never tolerate anyone else laughing at you
- Shout often, and shout loudly
- Harbor old wounds, slights and humiliations in your heart
BUT if you don't want anger to control you > go to the WORD
You will find freedom, grace, forgiveness in your soul like you couldn't create yourself. That's because it's through GOD'S power.
Here are the take aways:
1. Refuse to live angry. Remember that anger is a choice, so in the moment take a deep breath, and see the choice you have before you.
2. Ask yourself, "Why am I angry?" There is usually a different deep-seeded emotion that is the root of anger. It could be injustice, hurt, embarrassed, sad, etc. When you realize what the deep-seeded emotion is, come up with solutions to fix THAT, not through anger.
3. Count as high as you need before you speak. This is always a good practice for anyone, no matter their age.
4. What God did for us is greater than what anyone could do against us. Recognize the grace God's gives you no matter how much you fail, and offer that grace to others.
5. Make the relationship a priority. No anger is worth ruining an important relationship in your life.
6. When you're angry, be angry about the RIGHT stuff. When Jesus was angry in the temple, he was filled with righteous anger. The church is not created for people to get "rich".
"Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly."
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